Expectations. We all have them, but what do they get us? I know for me, they really only lead to disappointments. It’s hard to get out of that mood, too, when you are disappointed over something trivial only you expected. Perhaps the other person had other plans. Perhaps the other person didn’t know what you were thinking and expecting and consequently, ended up hurting you totally by accident.
Though I’ve worked on not having any expectations, sometimes they just happen. It can be something so ridiculous as expecting a night at home but plans changing, or expecting a PR but not working hard enough to get it. You could even expect something and unfortunately, plans had to change.
I think it’s ok to be upset when your expectations lead to disappointments. However, I think we need to learn from those and quit making expectations. I’ve been working on it, and the other day happened to be one day where I expected something that totally didn’t happen. After thinking back, and realizing how ridiculous it was anyway, I thought about how far I’ve come in not needing plans all the time and working on going with the flow. Having one day of expecting things, being disappointed, and dealing with it, I realized that it’s been few and far between days like this. That’s what life is all about. Instead of continuing in the same ways, we need to learn from them. Practice days without expectations. It may be hard at first, but it will get easier. If a day of disappointment happens, learn from it and next time, don’t expect anything.
Remember, life happens. We aren’t perfect, and have no reason to ever pretend we are. Keep living your life, and learning from it.