Time for another Wedding update! If you missed my last one, you can check out the proposal here.
After we got engaged, and actually even beforehand, I started thinking about our bridal party, and who I would want to be apart of our special day. This was the hardest part of wedding planning to date. Aaron had it easy, which made it even harder for me. He knew he wanted his 4 brothers, and then my brother. There. Done. Five guys.
Seriously, why do men always have it easier?
He flat out told me I could only have 5 because he didn’t want to get into his friends, and I respected that. I also have some OCD, so I knew I wouldn’t have an uneven amount compared to his. So, who do you pick? I have had many different groups of friends in school. I wasn’t apart of one huge group in high school or college, but it seemed to be little groups here and another little group there, and a person here and person there. It became incredibly challenging to narrow down my options.
I wanted everyone. Making it even harder was the idea that I couldn’t have this person without that person or she’d get mad and then we’d be back to square one.
Really though, I wanted everyone.
It took me a while to come up with who I would eventually choose. I ultimately knew I wanted my best friend, who I met in 7th grade (she was in 8th) and we’ve had a great friendship since. It’s one of those don’t talk everyday, don’t hang out all the time, live in separate states kind of friendship. My cousin on my mom’s side, Jenn, was also a for sure because we have been close growing up and she feels like a sister to me. There. 2 down.
Another one of my all time best friends lived across the street from me until 3 years ago, and it was a very similar relationship I had with her. We felt like sisters and we could just hang out without really doing anything, and it was perfect. However, she is in her sisters wedding, and the only one in the bridal party, about a month before mine. Therefore, I really debated whether she would even want to be in my wedding, or if she’d have time. At least I knew I would ask 3. There wasn’t a doubt in my mind I wanted her in my wedding, and decided if it was too much for her, she could tell me and we’d go from there!
I forgot about the easiest, actually! Aaron has one sister. She would most definitely be in our wedding, so now I had four! Wahoo, moving up. Aaron and I discussed this whole situation. We really wanted friends and family that truly cared about us as a couple, on the alter with us. We wanted people who asked what was new with us or how things were going. Friends and family who would simply bring up “How’s Aaron” without him being around. I knew exactly the right person, and so did Aaron. We both wanted my cousin, Bridget, on my dads side. She is friends with Aaron’s youngest brother, so she’s known the family for a while, also. She is also the one who freaked out and nearly ruined everything in her path when I told her we were engaged! She lives very close to me, and feels like another sister. Not only that, but she will talk to Aaron and hang out with him, without me even being around. They have become very close and have fun when they’re together, so we ultimately decided that she had to be in it! I’m not sure anyone was as excited about being in our wedding as she was!
My bridesmaids! (Minus Kelly because she had to work that day )
We both came up with separate ways to ask our respective friends/family. Aaron’s method took a while, and I think he “officially” asked his brothers and my brother a month or two ago (we’ve been engaged since July). He wrote a letter to them, outlining responsibilities, and included funny tidbits about each other.
I took a
harder more fun approach! I chose to make hangers for my girls with their name on them, along with the date of our wedding. I also bought each of them a bottle of wine, and wrote up a letter to glue on the front as the label to ask each to be in my wedding. They all loved them, and I loved being able to do it for them.
These were their gifts I gave them when I asked each of them!
They are all fabulous, and our wedding is sure to be a fun one with all of them in our bridal party!
Were you apart of only one group of friends through high school and college?
Do you think you would have any problem choosing bridesmaids? or, Did you have trouble deciding your bridesmaids?