Comin at ya a bit later today! I just didn’t have it in me last night to get on the computer, and this morning Annabelle decided to protest sleep and so I napped during her first nap. Life with a newborn, right? Totally worth it! But, on with today’s post.
There are things everyone tells you while you’re expecting. They tell you to enjoy sleep now, because you won’t sleep when they are born. They tell you how fast time goes. They tell you lots that you have heard before. Well, there are some things I didn’t know, or just want to talk about from my own experience. Here we go…
– Even though I looked good in the hospital, I didn’t walk out of the hospital feeling great. In fact, I hobbled my way into the car, and it hurt to sit for quite a few days. Like, quite a few days.
– I did tear (2nd degree), which is common when you push out a baby, but I didn’t know how bad it would hurt. I didn’t realize that you’d actually feel the stitches and just didn’t expect that healing.
-With that being said, we’re gonna get a little TMI. You read all about tearing or cutting, but no one talks about hemorrhoids. Yeah, I went there. I didn’t expect to have them, but when you are pushing with all your might, I guess it makes sense. Anyway, let’s just say I didn’t just have one, and that pain was worse than tearing. Oh, and no one told me I even had them, so discovering that was real fun! Yeah, those also hurt for days. Between that and stitches, I quite honestly had some bad days. But, every time I mentioned them to someone who had a baby (because, clearly I don’t keep things to myself), they all said they had them!
– No matter what, once you look at your baby, you will forget how bad the pain of labor was and how bad it hurt to tear or whatever happened. It’s all completely worth it. You’ll also forget how it felt to be pregnant. I can’t even remember the big belly, the rib pain, the acid reflux. On that note, getting a hug from Aaron without a big belly in the way was pretty darn great!
– Now, you probably thought I had the worst recovery given stitches, tearing, and hemorrhoids, but the worst of it was over in one week and I started feeling more like myself, pretty quickly. I didn’t think recovery was that terrible because it didn’t last forever and I was back to running and feeling like myself in two weeks.
– Sometimes, I forget I just had a baby. Actually, a lot of the time. Besides the huge boobs I’m sporting, I feel a lot like myself. Some days I don’t, and some days looking at my wider hips and flabby stomach can make me sad for a second, but then I think of her and it’s all worth it. But, I don’t miss the big belly
– I cried on many occasions. Yes, having her has changed my world for the best and I’m so happy with her, but a few days after her, my hormones were nuts and I cried over everything. Aaron would say something ridiculously normal (like, what’s for dinner, or can I get you anything) and I would just break down and cry so much! I had no idea this was a thing, but it is, and it gets better.
– Night sweats are a thing. The day my milk came in, my cousin told me about how she would wake up sweating terribly at night. Wouldn’t you know, that happened to me. Some nights when Annabelle cries and I go feed her, I can feel my shirt is a sweaty mess. Other times, I just know I sweat at some point because my hair is all kinds of crazy. It also makes me completely freezing once I do get up. Yeah, didn’t know this happened after having a baby.
– I have more anxiety than I ever had. It isn’t over anything crazy, but for the first week/week and a half (ok, maybe some nights now!) I would start having crazy anxiety starting at like 5 over how the night would go. I would spend more time worrying about that and how much sleep I’d get and then I’d be all worked up, and, cue the tears.
– With that being said, somehow, you make it through with little sleep. You guys, I need my sleep. Like, I averaged 8-9 hours most nights before having her. Since having her, the longest I’ve gone is 5 hours straight (once), but usually I’m up every couple hours. Totally worth it, but when you average less than 6 hours of sleep a night, I wouldn’t think I’d be able to function but you do! Somehow (Ok, God totally is behind this!) you make it through, and it’s fine.
– It’s ok to be upset when your baby has an awful night sleep. It’s ok to be upset when your husband goes back to work. It’s ok to be upset when your boobs hurt so bad. It’s ok to be upset sometimes! If it continues or gets to be severe, please talk to a doctor!
– Breastfeeding is different for everyone. I am lucky that she has been a great eater since day one, but it’s not all rainbows! She likes to push my boob away, nipple in mouth, which hurts. My boobs feel like rocks when she decides not to eat much, sleeps longer than planned, or eats only on one side. It’s hard to sleep on my stomach because, it hurts, haha. My nipples are way more sensitive to the cold (ouch!). But, I’m feeding my child and that’s all I care about!
– Lastly, stretch marks can occur after you have a baby. I am now sporting some new stretch marks on my boobs and my inner thighs. I thought I made it out without them, but they appeared, randomly. It’s hard to look at sometimes, but it’s worth it.
No matter what I’ve dealt with, being Annabelle’s mom is my favorite job in the world. I love walking in to her crib and unswaddling her to get a smile. I love when I pick her up from sleep and she curls up on my chest and snuggles up. I love when she’s playing on her gym mat. I love watching her with Aaron. I wouldn’t change anything about, but I wish I would have known about all these things before hand
If you had a baby, what do you wish you would have known before?
I’ll be back and sharing our newborn photos this week!