I mentioned two weeks ago that Aaron finally came home. His weekish long trip became 12 days and it was a lot harder than I thought it’d be! I learned some things that I thought I’d share!
– It’s really hard. I honestly didn’t expect it to be that hard and have a completely new perspective for any single parents!
– Though I always wake up when she cries, I hated being the only one who could get up to put the binky in or try to get her back to sleep. There was also no one to commiserate with over all the night wakenings
– There was no break in the day. I used to wait until Aaron would come home. It gave me a break and Annabelle got time with someone else. Nope, didn’t happen. I resorted to going to Target a lot or out to stores at night to break up the day.
– I was exhausted all the time. Even if the sleep improved, I was exhausted from doing everything with her.
– Bedtime took significantly longer. She gets a little clingy at the end of the day when she’s ready for bed. So.. getting the tub ready, bottle ready, medicine in her, undressed, and in the tub became a long process, haha.
– All house responsibilities were on me. Dishes, vacuuming, keeping up with the bills. Granted, my mom really helped out, but still. I had to worry about everything.
– Because of the meds switch, Annabelle didn’t nap well, at all. I felt like I was constantly rocking her to sleep, trying to keep her asleep, or trying to get everything done in the 20 minutes she was asleep.
– It was lonely! Oh my gosh. It was sooo lonely. There’s no one to unwind with at the end of the day or to chat with. Side note: Because of Aaron’s job, we were unable to even talk at all while he was gone.
– You have to be on your toes ready to go all the time. If she woke up and needed her binky, I had to be ready to get up and get it. If she woke up crying, it was me. If she was hungry, it was on me (but it always is, haha!).
– Dinner was sometimes eaten after she went to bed. It never failed that she was crabby or didn’t want to be put down whenever I wanted to eat dinner. It was honestly easier (though my stomach hated it!) to just wait until she went down for the night.
– Working out became hard. It wasn’t as fun to me at all. It felt more like a chore, but I needed it. When I finished any workout, though, I felt so much better! It was just tough to get that motivation because I was exhausted. Going for runs outside when the weather was nice was amazing for both of us!
– On the bright side, you really find out who is there to help you. I think we had more visitors come over to be with Annabelle or help me out than she’s ever had in a short time period. I couldn’t thank everyone enough! Not only did they keep me from going crazy, but they helped occupy Annabelle so I could get things around the house, blog, or clean up the kitchen that never seemed to be clean.
So to anyone out there that is a single mom, I really think you’re amazing. I can’t imagine doing all that all the time. Make sure you ask for help if you need it or have people come visit If you know of anyone who is a single mom, offer to go hang out with them, let them go out for a run, invite them over, whatever! Just be there for them!
Thanks, Amanda, for letting me think today!
What’s a life lesson you learned recently?
As a side note, I do write this in a serious way, but some of the things I learned are not the most serious and I really am not a single mom. I know there are more pressing issues that are harder when being a single mom, but I don’t feel I can really comment as I did have my husband return after a few weeks.