We choose it.
We make it.
Our lives are better with it.
Thinking positively will make you happy.
There have been a lot of times within the last year, where my positivity has gone out the window. I tend to let it go, and the negative thoughts come into play.
For instance, take into account our house hunting. I have become defeated with many house hunts. But why? All I was doing was letting the negative thoughts of not finding a house get in the way of finding the house. Instead of thinking what might become of a house, I immediately thought this isn’t our house.
By being positive, we are open to more in our life. We aren’t watching things or moments pass by, or sitting around wallowing in our pity when others are out doing fun things.
I’ve also experienced this with teaching jobs. It is extremely frustrating to know that others are receiving long-term sub jobs, or even full time jobs, but not me. I obviously have no idea the background on any candidates, just that I let the negative thoughts creep in. At the beginning of the year, I heard about others receiving jobs and immediately went into a state of depression, and became upset.
But you know what? I should have been positive about the whole experience. I have had many job interviews, and have now been able to learn about multiple school districts around my house. Not only that, but I couldn’t have done it. Being a first year teacher, planning a wedding, and house hunting? I couldn’t imagine. So, in a way, not having a job was a blessing in disguise, but I didn’t have a chance to think about that; I just thought negatively.
My mom is an excellent example of staying positive. She has faced a lot in her life, both good and bad, and has remained positive throughout it all. I look up to her every single time I have negative thoughts. Sure, sometimes it is nice to just deal with feelings of being upset without thinking positively. It might only take 5 minutes of wallowing to let it pass and move on, and sometimes that is what I need. Most of the time, though, thinking of the positive snaps you out of your mood and gets you back on the road of life.
Throughout all of my states of negativity this past year, my mom has been there. She has made me see what positive could come out of every problem I encountered. The job search? Yeah, she laid beside me while I was upset. House hunting? She searches every night for houses that may have come up or what we could do to certain houses to make them better.
One of the ways to live your best life, and stay positive, is to remove the negative influences in your life. Easier said than done, right? I have found that the negative people in my life really do bring me down. I immediately think negatively when I see what they have been doing, but not in a jealous way, at all.
Try to find out what makes you happy and keeps you looking at the positive.
Here is a list to get you started on finding out what makes you happy:
- Is it reading a good book every night?
- Do you enjoy a glass of wine with dinner to unwind?
- Do you feel the best when you get a good workout in everyday?
- Remove negative influences- it may be friends, it may be food
- Think about something exciting coming up in your life.
- Think back to a time you were the happiest. What made you feel that way?
- Do you have stresses in your life that you can handle and get rid of?
- Maybe you had a bad day at work. Forget about it. Don’t dwell on what’s already happened.
Do you have negative people or things in your life that bring you down? What helps you when you more positivity in your life? Are there times when you just need time to be sad, but then snap out of it and are happy again?