Who do you admire? It seems like it should be such a simple answer, and maybe you can answer it in a fast manner. For many of us, I bet it’s a hard question. We live in a world of comparison, where whether we want to compare ourselves to another or not, it happens. I do wish this wasn’t the case, but it is our world. I think it makes the question “who do you admire?” a little more challenging.
This topic actually popped into my head over something I admire Aaron for, and wish I could be. Which leads me to, what are you supposed to do when you admire someone? Isn’t it basically like the comparison trap? Aren’t you comparing yourself to them and looking at what they do better than you? Or maybe it’s something they have and you want?
I don’t admire just one person; instead, I admire a whole heck of a lot of people for a heck of a lot of different reasons. In the end, though, am I admiring them to be like them or admiring them for just who they are.
One reason why I admire Aaron (well, one of a lot but still…) is for his excitement. You know Aaron started running, just like many of us do. But, there’s a difference. Typically, I do think about how I get to run, but sometimes (okay, most days), it happens to be “Oh, I have to run today.. that’s on the schedule.” There have been a few times when Aaron comes home from work, and with such a giddy excitement, he says “I get to run today!” with a bubbly personality and a huge grin on his face. I admire him for his love and excitement over running. Am I comparing myself to him? Well, in a way, yes. I am looking at how I don’t always get that excited, but he does. He also doesn’t fret, or worry, if he doesn’t get a run in on a day. Me? I wake up early to do it, or I try to fit in at least something. I’m sure we’ve all been there with making our schedule around our workouts. It’s not something I’m proud of, and here he is living life, and fitting in exercise when it happens. Last night was a running night for him (he only runs every other day) but we were at my parents and stayed later. Did he ever make a comment about how he couldn’t get a run in? Or did he leave early? No, he enjoyed his life. I admire him for that.
I really don’t have an answer, but I’m looking for your thoughts. Is admiring someone a good thing? Should you just admire someone for something in no hopes of being like them? Does it matter? I’m not a fan of the comparison trap, and really think we should all be living our life for ourselves. What works for someone else may never work for me, so why compare myself, especially when some things in life are luck. Should I not admire them, though, for the work they do in hopes that I do it myself? Or in the belief that I could never do it. I’m not sure.